A life of reacting is limiting and unfulfilling
Each one of us grew into personhood under the formative influence of insecurities of various forms. We adopted befitting strategies at different ages of development to protect us in some way or another from dreaded outcomes. Some of these meant sacrificing or denying something precious or valuable about ourselves in order to provide some perception of safety, significance, or connection. Later, the more "mature" parts of us can become harshly judgmental (plaguing us with "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts") about early life experiences, choices, feeling states, and reaction patterns that still continue to limit or interfere with wellbeing.
As long as we view anything about ourselves as a problem that needs to be corrected, we will remain caught up in trying to "get it right." Well, real freedom to change cannot occur unless it is realized that there is no correct way to be. So decide to trust that you are and always have been completely OK, no matter what has been thought or felt. In fact, fully reclaim & rejoice in what's true: that your multifaceted being is a unique expression of Life that is beyond human judgement. You are free to be.
A regular practice of being with your self and others is a good way to strengthen the mind's capacity to operate in present time and reduce reactive thought and feeling patterns carried forward from the past. For more information view for free on this website my latest Ebooks, gallery images, and ï»¿Workshopï»¿ presentation.
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