The mind of virtually every human being operates by sensing various stimuli, distinguishing one from another, interacting with them, and recording the effects.  Making distinctions requires detecting difference or contrast. This "operating system" has evolved to enhance survival of our species, and so is normal and inherently valuable.  What also results, however, is application of this mindset to personality development and to construction and maintenance of personal reality.  There becomes a reliance on contrast, with life being guided by attitudes and memories attached to one aspect versus another... like vs. dislike, strength vs. weakness, good vs. bad, attraction vs. repulsion, right vs. wrong, etc.  In the process of using our minds in this way we come to believe in the reality of and necessity for differences.

And yet unconditional love operates outside of differences.  It welcomes all, attends all, accepts all, values all, embraces all, and makes room for all.  This does not mean we stop judging; it simply means we keep deciding to see judging for what it is, a valued survival adaptation, and nothing more.  Practice looking at yourself, others, and all of life from a fresh perspective that is blind to differences and without "preferences."  Notice what appears. 

Personal insecurity concerns lead human beings to seek and attach to whatever is thought is needed to attain a sense of safety, significance, and acceptance.  As it is realized that safety, significance, and acceptance are inherently yours in each moment, generosity as an expression of being in the world with other living creatures can blossom.  Generosity is the seed of true wealth and abundance.
 
Look at the above word image and sense into the apprehensions that arise within your body-mind.  Follow each concern to its deepest level, even to fear of annihilation or non-existence.  Sense into the body for clues about the conditions in early life that activated or energized them and led to any related adaptive behavior patterns.  Accept and appreciate how all worries and concerns arise from deep within the psyche to protect you. Make this a regular practice whenever such defenses appear and you will gradually find yourself thinking less about what you lack or need and more about you have to share or give.