Our 3 innate insecurities are that we are not safe, we do not matter, and we do not belong. Fear drives us to address these essential needs in some way and to be on the lookout for any threats to their not being met. Perceptions that our security needs are being met bring satisfaction and pride, while indications they are not being met bring distress and shame. To ensure survival of our species, our brains evolved a heightened sensitivity to insecurity fears, a strong propensity (bias) to be vigilant, suspicious, doubting, or unsatisfied. We can counterbalance this leaning by noticing and appreciating evidence we are safe, significant, and connected in the present moment. Practicing gratitude works.
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